Category Archives: Relationships
How To Cope With A Difficult Mother
You’re The One Who Needs Fixing – Not Me!
So, Counsellor, What Do You Actually Do?
The Drama Triangle – Understanding Communication Breakdown
In 1968, Stephen Karpman first referred to the Drama Triangle model as a means of describing and analysing human interaction. Karpman’s ideas often prove useful in helping us identify the roles we ourselves play when stuck in unhelpful repeating patterns of communication with others – and how to step out of those roles.
How To Talk To A Defensive Person
Shame And Dependency
Shame. There, I said it. Shame feels horrible. I think of a hot, creeping sensation that sweeps over the body, starting in the face and travelling rapidly down to the stomach – where it stays. It’s a feeling of having been exposed and found wanting when measured against our own or somebody else’s idea of a…
Choice – Do I Have More Than I Might Think?
With A Little Help From My Friends…
Authenticity – What Is It And Do I Want It?
Authenticity is a term that is often bandied around by counsellors and psychotherapists as something worth having. But just what does it mean in the context of counselling and psychotherapy and what are the implications of trying to get it? For me, authenticity involves being true to one’s own beliefs,…