In our efforts to connect to someone are we inadvertently pushing them away?

All exchanges involving two sides have rules , even if they are unwritten. When we negotiate (argue...) with our partners there will also be rules and there is one simple one which is often overlooked but that can have a real impact on how we resolve our differences. Arguments have a tendency to go round and round. Sometimes we find ourselves in the frustrating position of being unable to reach any sort of agreement - things just get more and more heated until one or other o