In our efforts to connect to someone are we inadvertently pushing them away?

Attachment theory is an attempt to explain differences in the dynamics of long-term human relationships based on how an infant connects...

All exchanges involving two sides have rules , even if they are unwritten. When we negotiate (argue...) with our partners there will also be rules and there is one simple one which is often overlooked but that can have a real impact on how we resolve our differences. Arguments have a tendency to go round and round. Sometimes we find ourselves in the frustrating position of being unable to reach any sort of agreement - things just get more and more heated until one or other o

Ever thought to yourself as you argue with your partner - "here we go again, same old, same old"? Perhaps you've got stuck in a downward...

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." Rumi We all have barriers to protect ourselves from emotional harm. These barriers, or boundaries, are important and necessary to keep us safe. Sometimes though, we build our barriers a little too high. Maybe we have been hurt before and so to protect ourselves from further pain we put up a barrier between ourselves and others (or certain others)