When somebody in a family begins to have a problem - e.g. an eating disorder, unexplained illness or difficulty leaving home - it is very easy for everyone else involved to pin the blame on this one person. They are the ones who "should pull themselves together," or "stop upsetting your mother / father". Somewhere along the line we assume that the person in difficulty is solely responsible for what is happening and that 'fixing' their behaviour will solve the problem. A Soci