Throughout our lives we will all receive messages from other people about who we are and what we are like. Such information will have an impact on the way we feel about ourselves. Positive messages will build our confidence whereas other, less favourable ones, might help us to regulate our behaviour and fit in with other people. Sometimes, unhelpful or outdated messages can hold us back from living a fulfilling life. How might therapy help? Common Labels Examples of labels

What happens to us when we are repeatedly 'not heard' by important others? From a child's perspective, I can imagine feeling misunderstood, unseen, dismissed and - eventually - angry. In adulthood, there might then be a danger that this old anger may get in the way of us feeling heard by the people who are closest to us now. What Does Not Hearing Sound Like? I recently came across a thought-provoking article entitled Emotions Are Not Bad Behaviour written by the Sydney-bas