When something is going wrong in an important relationship (whether it be between a couple, parents and adult children, siblings or friends), is therapy together usually the best way to tackle the problem?  Or, would individual therapy be more beneficial?

What does it mean to be empathic? How can we use this way of being with others to resolve conflict and promote understanding whilst at the same time keeping ourselves emotionally safe? If too much or not enough empathy is a problem for us, how might counselling and psychotherapy help? A Definition Of Empathy The Cambridge English dictionary defines empathy as follows: 'the ability to share someone else's feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in th

At various times in our lives we will be faced with deciding how best to support family, friends, colleagues - and sometimes strangers - who are in distress.

Many couples struggle to find a way to communicate effectively . Without a solid platform from which to discuss tricky subjects safely and productively we may flounder around feeling unhappy, angry and stuck. There might be rows, silences and slammed doors but no matter how much energy is expended nothing changes; the difficulties within the relationship stay the same. How might counselling and psychotherapy help? Feeling The Pressure Communication difficulties often arise -

A recurring theme when working with communication difficulties is how to find common ground when one person approaches life's challenges in a very logical, thinking way and the other is much more inclined to focus on relationships and feelings. How might counselling or psychotherapy help? Pros and Cons of the Logical Mind It is not difficult to imagine the benefits of an ability to think logically, decisively and calmly in a range of different circumstances. With an emotion

Attachment theory is an attempt to explain differences  in the dynamics of long-term human relationships based on how an infant connects...

I've realised that I've been avoiding writing an article about avoiding conflict. I mentioned writing about this subject months ago (see...

In this post I aim to give you an overview of what to expect when you come to me for relationship counselling in Brighton and Hove. All counsellors and psychotherapists have their own unique way of working and whatever their approach, it will suit some people and not others. I like to give my clients an idea of how I work before they come to see me for the first time. Working with me as a couple is often insightful, difficult, frustrating, surprising and humbling (for all t

Ever thought to yourself as you argue with your partner - "here we go again, same old, same old"? Perhaps you've got stuck in a downward...

"Your task is not to seek for love , but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."  Rumi...

“How could you be so selfish?!” "I’m finding you aggressive right now!” "You’re jealous!” How do we respond when we are on the receiving...