Relationships

"Your task is not to seek for love , but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."  Rumi...

Ever so often I take a look through my special “ah-ha!” lenses and see a concept that has been bothering me with completely fresh eyes....

“How could you be so selfish?!” "I’m finding you aggressive right now!” "You’re jealous!” How do we respond when we are on the receiving end of negative criticism from other people? Does the way we react in these situations – either internally, i.e. what we tell ourselves, or externally, i.e. what we communicate to the other person – make a difference to the way we feel about ourselves? Do we have a choice? Can we learn to respond in a different way? It is very easy when face

I’m waiting to pay at the supermarket check-out. I can feel the guy behind me’s breath on the back of my neck. From time to time the...

Are you still living your life according to a ‘script’ or set of rules about how to be in the world that you first put together when you were four-years-old? Theories of Transactional Analysis (developed by Eric Berne) suggest that many of us are.   I find this theory can be particularly useful in helping people break patterns of behaviour that might be puzzling, distressing or simply out of awareness. For example, if you worked out as a young child that showing your anger t