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If, as children, we felt repeatedly hurt , humiliated, abandoned, suffocated or ignored by someone close to us and on whom we depended...

"Your task is not to seek for love , but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."  Rumi...

Any therapist worth their salt will have gone through or be going through many months of their own therapy. Personally, as a client, I...

Ever so often I take a look through my special “ah-ha!” lenses and see a concept that has been bothering me with completely fresh eyes....

Describing our lives and how we feel through the use of metaphor is, I believe, a powerful means of exploring and making sense of our...

I am sometimes asked by potential new clients if I am prepared to see them fortnightly rather than on my usual weekly basis. I...

You’ve met your counsellor and decided to go ahead with some sessions . He or she seems pleasant, competent and interested in what you...

So now you have a shortlist of suitable sounding counsellors and psychotherapists… What made you choose them? Do they practise close to...

Most practitioners agree that is the strength of the relationship between you and your therapist that is the best indicator for a...

I have come across numerous contradictory answers to this question. It appears that the definition of each term depends upon whom you...

“How could you be so selfish?!” "I’m finding you aggressive right now!” "You’re jealous!” How do we respond when we are on the receiving...

I’m waiting to pay at the supermarket check-out. I can feel the guy behind me’s breath on the back of my neck. From time to time the...

I like a good metaphor and I came across a great one the other day. On my holidays a tour guide was apologising for not being able to...

Are you still living your life according to a ‘script’ or set of rules about how to be in the world that you first put together when you...

For me, counselling is about change . You might consider visiting a therapist when you are feeling uncomfortable or distressed about some...

I aim to post short articles about the counselling process roughly once a month. I will examine established theory and some of my own...